Your partner does not evaluate your reliability through grand gestures. They evaluate it through the accumulated evidence of a thousand moments you thought did not count.
The people you admire for their discipline are not fighting harder battles than you. They have designed their lives so the battles rarely happen in the first place.
Leadership is not a position. It is a behavioral event. It happens the moment someone watches what you do and quietly changes what they do because of it.
You say family matters most. You say health is a priority. You say you want to build something. Your calendar says otherwise, and your calendar does not lie.
Two people with the same goal will produce radically different consistency. The variable is not discipline. It is whether the goal is connected to something worth being uncomfortable for.