Unsolicited advice makes you feel generous and makes them feel controlled. The people who actually change behavior around you do it because they watched you, not because you told them.
Your partner does not evaluate your reliability through grand gestures. They evaluate it through the accumulated evidence of a thousand moments you thought did not count.
The business got my best hours. Then my best energy. Then my best problem-solving. What was left for my marriage was the depleted version of me. My partner knew the difference.
It was not a conversation. It was a look. A reaction. A silence where comfort should have been. And it rewired everything that came after.
You have rehearsed it a hundred times. You know what needs to be said. The reason you have not said it yet is the same reason you need to.