The Luminaries Journal
Posts tagged with #relationships.
This archive holds every Luminaries article tagged relationships. 6 articles so far, working through identity and masculinity, leadership and relationships, all written by Abraham Ojo. The most recent is "15% of Men Have No Close Friends Anymore. The Internet Is Blaming the Wrong Thing.". Each post stands on its own, and the full list is at the bottom of this page.
The internet is arguing about why men are lonely. The data says something simpler and more fixable: male friendship was always venue-based, and the venues are gone.
Unsolicited advice makes you feel generous and makes them feel controlled. The people who actually change behavior around you do it because they watched you, not because you told them.
Your partner does not evaluate your reliability through grand gestures. They evaluate it through the accumulated evidence of a thousand moments you thought did not count.
The business got my best hours. Then my best energy. Then my best problem-solving. What was left for my marriage was the depleted version of me. My partner knew the difference.
It was not a conversation. It was a look. A reaction. A silence where comfort should have been. And it rewired everything that came after.
6 articles by Abraham Ojo, grouped by the theme each one works through.